"Our chief want is for someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be."
Ralph Waldo Emmerson
Why hire a coach?
First of all, coaching isn't therapy. The point of working with a coach is not to rehash your past. Coaching is about your future…the one you would create if you finally had the support that you needed.
"Therapy can be helpful, but life coaching is different. For me, it works faster, and is much more focused on change than simply talking. I want someone to get me to stop talking about my problems and instead see them in a new light and shift things. It helps me act with integrity, wisdom, clarity, and compassion in everything I do - toward others, but especially toward myself. But I didn't go easily into the process. I resisted it until the suffering was just too much. I hope you don't wait that long!"
--Mark Hyman, M.D.
NY Times Bestselling Author
No one needs a coach. You choose coaching because you want MORE. You see a possibility for your life that requires that you change or grow in a significant way and, let's face it, change can be really hard sometimes.
The job of great coach is to see how you can be better and to help you to get there. Michael Jordan had a coach. Wayne Gretzky had a coach. Muhammad Ali always had a coach. These guys were the best in the world but they still got regular coaching. Why?
Because there is no limit to your greatness. The best athletes in the world know this. And because who you really are…what you're really capable of…is exponentially greater than the life you're living now.
A coach's job is to see what no one else sees and say what no one else will say. A great coach listens deeply to hear what you're saying as well as what you're not saying. They listen not just with their ears, but with their whole body so they can tune into the way your energy shifts as you get really honest.
The gap between where you are and where you want to be is all about you. And that's the good news! Want to close that gap? Hire a powerful coach.
The International Coaching Federation defines coaching as:
“… an ongoing relationship which focuses on clients taking action toward the realization of their visions, goals and desires. Coaching uses a process of inquiry and personal discovery to build the client’s level of awareness and responsibility and provides the client with structure, support and feedback. The coaching process helps clients both define and achieve professional and personal goals faster and with more ease than would be otherwise be possible.”
For me, I borrow elements from the ICF definition…
“…coaching is an ongoing relationship that increases a client’s ability to make powerful choices and take effective action by increasing their level of energy, awareness, possibility, insight and connection to their deeper wisdom.”